Some say you can’t have both. You’re either one or another. This is sad because anyone is capable of having both, it’s just sometimes only one side is ever awakened.
As an INFJ an Introverted, iNtuition, Feeling, Judging, Myers-Briggs personality type, I’ve seen many posts over the years about how INFJ’s are like quite angels. Reality check we’re not. According to statistics, though we may be the lowest percent of personality types, we are not by any chance a superior human being. Which I find a lot of people think when reading posts about INFJ’s. A lot of blog posts do however mention that there are a lot of similarities between types and I’m not trying to point out only the posts I disagree with. Either way, truth be told INFJ’s are not necessarily quite angels and most of us are truly outgoing introverts, which brings me to the topic of today’s blog post.
I am an outgoing introvert or ambivert, that is one title I refer to myself as, following, sensitive, HSP etc. This basically means that though your true processing is as an introvert, you are commonly mistaken as an extrovert due to your bubbly and outgoing nature around familiar friends and family. You are still an introvert, but I suppose it can be considered the best of both worlds. All in all it’s pretty easy to tell for yourself if you are an outgoing introvert, because though people think you may be the life of a small social gathering when you get home you just watch Netflix or read a book to recharge, and that’s okay. There are also a lot of people that aren’t INFJ’s that are ambiverts as well and that’s awesome too. It’s just what INFJ’s have known to now be.
The thing that I find most interesting about being an outgoing introvert or about any title you give to yourself and express easily is that to others, you are not affiliated with that title. I’ve actually been in conversation with family members about how they think I’m actually not an Introvert (which to be quite honest, can upset me at times, only because it can feel like they don’t know me well enough). Still, however, it’s a rude reality with really everything you will ever say and will take time for others if they choose to stick around for others to really understand.
I know this is one of my shorter posts, but the message here is short and sweet as well. As an INFJ or really any personality type (which all of you are at least one type) there are going to people who won’t immediately get you if not all people that you first meet and that’s okay. You could be an extrovert, introvert, ambivert or anything at all and that’s okay too. You are going to be confronted at least once in your life about people questioning who you are and why you refer to yourself as so in so, and that’s life. The most important thing is that in the end, you know what’s best for you, and only you can make the decision in the end. So sure people will question your titles, but you don’t have to question them in response to other comments. You’ve already figured that out while they have not, and no problems in that either.
What I’m trying to say is though throughout this post I’ve been talking about introversion and extroversion, this topic of how people will not immediately understand your title can be applied to almost anything in life. Gender, race, religion and the list can go on forever. Don’t let someone else tell you what you can or can’t be. You set the boundaries, who says that you can’t set the limits?
Stay strong. Hold your head up high. Trust yourself.