When You’re on a Budget and it’s the Holidays; What Really Matters

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“Just around the corner is a new day. Just around the corner is a gift. We never know what’s around the corner, but if you never decide to make a decision, you’d be stuck in the corn maze for quite some time.” ~Sonja P.

Making decisions is hard, especially when everything these days has a pretty large price tag attached to it. Maybe you could afford it before but just recently you can no longer afford what you could before, or maybe you have been always in the situation where you needed to penny pinch. You see, the holidays have always been a very commercial season that promotes physical objects and ideals but more so in the recent years I have found that the emphasis has increased from being something widely accepted to being something almost mandatory.

I personally celebrate Christmas, though I am not involved in the Catholic or Protestant faith, more so it is something my family and I have always done, with more emphasis on family and spending time together, then the religious background behind it.

The reason why I’m telling you this is because, I admit that only last year I was very insistent on gifts, paying lots of money for family gifts and as embarrassing as it is, expecting big gifts too. But something is different this year. Maybe it’s because it has been the first year I have been away from my family for more than a 3 months or if it’s because I started realizing how expensive everything was, when I realized that I’d rather be with my family for Christmas than to get a bunch of expensive things, shipped to my dorm room for the Holidays.

I find that there is this trend, through really anyone of any gender, race or religion, is that as we grow up, and as we realize we need to penny pinch, as we realize that being alone in a room all by yourself, is when we realize that being together is more important than gifts.

I know this sounds utterly cliche, but it is true. It is always the people that have grown up, the people that reflect on their lives where they wish they enjoyed being a child more, spending time with their friends and family, where they realize that the most important things are not material objects but being together whenever we can, giving each other respect, love, patience, and understanding. The Holidays shouldn’t be the only time when you appreciate your family, you should appreciate your family all year all month all day.

Oh, and in terms of being on a budget, I have moved on getting meaningful gifts over overpriced and shiny/flashy gifts, because again if there’s anything that I can gift, it would be more memories that we can share for years to come.

I Wish you all a Happy Holidays and if you celebrate Christmas, a Merry Christmas!

Happy Holidays,

Sonja P.

Holiday Reflection vs Regret

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“A reflection on your past is not only a privilege, for you know that you’ve made it this far, but it is an invaluable tool for moving forward and discovering more about who you really are and desire to become.” ~Sonja P.

With the Winter Holiday’s coming very Very soon and things in life slowing down in turn for the winter preparations, I personally believe it is an amazing time to reflect on this year achievements, goals and spiritual and mental well-being.

Of course, like any year there have been challenges, personally, this year has been riddled with a medical history, stress, anxiety, and general challenges, so a more difficult year, but  by looking back, I realize that my struggles were not a hindrance but an achievement.

I personally believe that struggles are like a crossroad in a path, where you decide which path you will take. Whatever the options of the roads may be, by standing where you are today, you still have moved forward, you are here where you are now you have made it.

A general reflection of one’s year is an amazing tool to use to your advantage, because during a year, after living through everything you have lived through, the thick and the thin, you have come out a different person. You are not the same person you were a year ago. You may not have had a drastic change of appearance, moral, personality, but you are never going to be the same person as you were a year ago, two years ago, five years or even ten years ago. I know this may sound scary because change is scary.

Change, the unknown, anything that we can’t foresee is most definitely. I am one of those people that like to plan 7 years ahead of what I want my life to be and spend endless nights thinking about mistakes I’ve made 7 years ago, and I have to admit fear of the unknown is terrifying. But think of it this way. You wouldn’t want to be a baby forever and have the same mentality of a baby forever, nor a toddler, teenager, or young adult forever.

I constantly read these posts online of ‘Thing I wish I could tell my younger self,’ but though this may seem as past regrets, I see it as physical, emotional and spiritual growth. This is because your older self would have learned from your mistakes. The reason why you have a regret is because it is something you wish you could have done differently, but it really is a choice and decision that  you have learned from.

For some reason, in today’s society regret is seen as a bad thing, and of course, anything in too large of a dose is bad for you, and I mean anything, to pop drinks to water. Think of it this way, regret is a reflection of the challenges you have been faced while and reflection is the outcome of those regrets. Without one there is no other. Everything is interconnected and in reality, it’s pretty incredible, magical even.

You see, even if it sometimes feels like you have gone more so backwards than forwards, remember that an arrow must be pulled backwards before propelling forwards.

Life is a journey, enjoy it. Enjoy life, be happy, take chances, because if you never take chances, you’ll never learn, and what fun is it to never have made a mistake, a regret if you never move forward and grow?

I wish you all have a happy holiday, filled with reflection and growth!

See you all around next time!!

Sonja P.

A Single Blade of Grass, You are Important

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In a beautiful meadow, I am a single blade of grass.

A single blade of grass,

I am one in many.

Millions of us make up a meadow,

and it would seem the absence of only me would make no difference.

But, you see, grass is an interwoven species.

A single blade of grass grows in connection with many others.

It would seem the absence of only me would make no difference.

But with the absence of one, others will cease,

Until a Beautiful Meadow becomes a grassland with sickly patches.

 

Like a single blade of grass, it is important to remember that only one person, one human, one you, is important.

Where you may seemingly have no connections and you may want to quit.

Remember that, we too are an interwoven species, and that you utter existence is important in your growth. In others growth. In human-kinds growth.

You are Important.

Remember that.