Holiday Reflection vs Regret


“A reflection on your past is not only a privilege, for you know that you’ve made it this far, but it is an invaluable tool for moving forward and discovering more about who you really are and desire to become.” ~Sonja P.

With the Winter Holiday’s coming very Very soon and things in life slowing down in turn for the winter preparations, I personally believe it is an amazing time to reflect on this year achievements, goals and spiritual and mental well-being.

Of course, like any year there have been challenges, personally, this year has been riddled with a medical history, stress, anxiety, and general challenges, so a more difficult year, but  by looking back, I realize that my struggles were not a hindrance but an achievement.

I personally believe that struggles are like a crossroad in a path, where you decide which path you will take. Whatever the options of the roads may be, by standing where you are today, you still have moved forward, you are here where you are now you have made it.

A general reflection of one’s year is an amazing tool to use to your advantage, because during a year, after living through everything you have lived through, the thick and the thin, you have come out a different person. You are not the same person you were a year ago. You may not have had a drastic change of appearance, moral, personality, but you are never going to be the same person as you were a year ago, two years ago, five years or even ten years ago. I know this may sound scary because change is scary.

Change, the unknown, anything that we can’t foresee is most definitely. I am one of those people that like to plan 7 years ahead of what I want my life to be and spend endless nights thinking about mistakes I’ve made 7 years ago, and I have to admit fear of the unknown is terrifying. But think of it this way. You wouldn’t want to be a baby forever and have the same mentality of a baby forever, nor a toddler, teenager, or young adult forever.

I constantly read these posts online of ‘Thing I wish I could tell my younger self,’ but though this may seem as past regrets, I see it as physical, emotional and spiritual growth. This is because your older self would have learned from your mistakes. The reason why you have a regret is because it is something you wish you could have done differently, but it really is a choice and decision that  you have learned from.

For some reason, in today’s society regret is seen as a bad thing, and of course, anything in too large of a dose is bad for you, and I mean anything, to pop drinks to water. Think of it this way, regret is a reflection of the challenges you have been faced while and reflection is the outcome of those regrets. Without one there is no other. Everything is interconnected and in reality, it’s pretty incredible, magical even.

You see, even if it sometimes feels like you have gone more so backwards than forwards, remember that an arrow must be pulled backwards before propelling forwards.

Life is a journey, enjoy it. Enjoy life, be happy, take chances, because if you never take chances, you’ll never learn, and what fun is it to never have made a mistake, a regret if you never move forward and grow?

I wish you all have a happy holiday, filled with reflection and growth!

See you all around next time!!

Sonja P.


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